Here is an assignment exercise which will help you to get an in-to-me-see look at how you think, feel and deal with your problems... perhaps this will help you begin with a stronger base of truth and justice for you and for those important to you:

1. What do you see and say is your main strongest conflict issue or issues with certain people describe it as a scene or picture?
2. And how would you describe it – the situation or theme of the troubles?
3. Now how would you describe your thinking separate from feeling emotion, when in that situation?
4. Now how would you describe your emotion – your feeling?
5. Would you describe your evaluation and assessment – your sense – your perception – your belief - of the troubled situation - similar to your thought processing?
6. Make your list of your words which you usually use to describe the people you have most trouble with.
7. Make your list of your words which you usually use to express anger.
8. Make your list of your words which you usually use to express fear.
9. Make your list of your words which you usually use to express being ashamed.
10. Make your list of your words which you usually use to express hurt.
11. Make your list of your words which you usually use to express lonely.
12. Make your list of your words which you usually use to express happy.
13. Make your list of your words which you usually use to express sad.
14. Take time now to explore and write down – words to describe in words exactly what you believe about solving relating or communication problems between you and your significant other?
15. You are a solution-oriented person who is emotionally balanced and you have the emotional capacity to see and deal with family conflict issues because you are well trained and fully-qualified in understanding family conflict and human nature – both healthy and well ways and ways which are defective and further damaging – so how do lead someone to see healthy change.
16. Describe a normal day for you – what does it look like? What do you do? What do you think like? What would change your mindset of peace and tranquility? How prepared are you for dealing with that special someone who brings up an old unresolved troubling issue for you?
17. Describe you - your self and how you appear and how you see your self, how you appear emotionally, physically, mentally and how you are relationally.
18. Describe what you are when you are at peace.
19. How are you when you are fully able to co-create with your significant other.
20. What does your compassion look like?
21. What is your boundary for family conflict?
22. How do you view others when you your self is in crisis?
23. What are your behaviors when you are in crisis?
24. Do you know and / or understand the assessing of your trust level for beginning to make solutions for relational problems including family conflict.
25. Get a mirror and look at your self - draw what you see yourself.
    

In doing this exercise  someone you are working with to begin to see patterns of self-manipulating, self-sabotaging and outright fooling your self about how you are viewing and then approaching your ways of working with someone that you have chosen to help you?
By doing this exercise you will identify your own personal choices and patterns and write them down and see them… share them with someone you accept to be of assistance or help.

This exercise is for you to explore who and how you are. This is not a method of self-therapy. Be careful of self-therapueting... it oftens promotes distortion and never offers healthy and well challenge or a base from which to check out disturbed processing. To ensure positive growth find someone whom you can trust and someone you know is healthy and well themsleves. Please know that you can only address disturbed and distorted emotional problems when you are willing to work with someone qualified... someone who can assist you in facilitating the conclusion of the processing of the emotional, physical, mental and relational elements of this exercise of life. This is the sacredness of the Great Circle of Life.

We human beings were meant to be with others and to be free of shame... and to own and be empowered with our true self. This about learning to love our self and share this love truly.

Do not fool your self by pretending or lying to your self or anyone else... that what I am talking about - writing about here is about BEING PERFECT... to think that is really a pile of old manipulative BS. So please look at the reality of working towards beginning to really work at being the most healthy - happy and well and loved person you can be. Blessings shared, Jimmy - Akicita Wakan Mani

The Medicine Wheel shows us about being human and being part of the Great Circle of Life. There are no magic ways to be a fully functional human being... each of us is made up of elements which must be in balance within us. For anyone out there who thinks "ugly" about this - you need to see that life is not about being perfect! If you are one of those "pre-judging" "dis-eased gossipers" - then you just may be a prejudiced and bigotted mean-spirited HURT person... and you could use this material to have a good look at where and you came to be in this life. This journey of doing healing change is unique and individual to each of us - in that no two lives are EXACTLY ALIKE... yet, we can and do learn from each other. We can see each other on our walk down the road we choose. We can be ugly and mean-spirited to each other. We are disturbed in our treatment of our self and of each other... we relate in the way we treat our self! We may act as if we are doing better than we really are and we suffer inside... this is what we pass on. This medicine wheel - for me - is about relating. Each of us must relate to our self first. Each of us must realize and understand just how we are doing our inner relating... how we treat our self AND WHY!

In the best way I can know in my heart - I know that the greatest aspect of life, I can do as a human is to learn what love is AND what love is not. Then to do it relate this way of love to another human being beyond me. With No BS. ithout an act of goodyness or being a holier-than-thou act of phoneyness here... just the simply walk and talk of sharing love. The fourth aspect of the medicine wheel is RELATING - RELATIONSHIP - RELATIVE... Not spiritual. It is not spiritual because in our original  way we were naturally connected to our love for the world, for nature, for creatures and other human beings... yes - this is what love MUST be... was once. We did not think of our "spiritual ways" as separate from the other aspects of our living life... our interaction with our families and our environment. Spirituality was not our RELIGION! We did not compartmentalize our faith and our traditional and cultural ways as a way of acting "bigger and better than others". We naturally saw our connection to life and the world and death and all things of the universe... and a greater source than us.

Today, we all struggle with being connected in a good way to every one... this is why we suffer... this is why we do not live in harmony. This is why...

Mitakuye Oyasin - means to me to be MY first prayer - which I TRY to take into my heart every day - which says - I pray that I can live beyond intellectualizing that I must treat all other human beings in a healthy and well way - that I must be honest, compassionate and just... relating with the wholeness of love. Big challenge for me... how about you? I hope you can do this exercise and then share it appropriately with someone important to you. Blessings shared.