Someone who you don’t know intimately, but is popular to you and many others – commits SUICIDE. You all feel sad and confused. Reasonably this happens. Yet, when a young person dies suddenly you take it without much consideration – at least not as heavy as a famous actor like Robin Williams kills himself. Why?
Robin Williams hung himself with a belt around his neck, on a chair: belt lodged in a door. Dead at 61. Sure it is sad, confusing and hurting… even depressing. After all – he seemed so funny. He entertained so many people for so many years. From being the alien – Mork on “Mork and Mindy” to that guy who played the role of the Vietnam War movie where he yells “Good morning V-i-e-t-n-ammmmm!” every time he goes on the radio station in Vietnam. He also played “Mrs. Doubtfire” and the main guy on “Jumanji”. He entertained us for over forty years.
I did not know him personally. I am affected by his death. I am saddened and thinking of symptoms of emotional illness or mental illness as most of the world sees this as or thinks of it as – mental illness. Yet, I KNOW that this mental illness begins first and foremost with the inability to deal with YOUR EMOTIONS.
We all act as if we were or are someone else at many times in our lives. Sometimes it is healthy to do this. We sometimes have a moral obligation to do this and we also have a disciplinary obligation to express out real true feelings and thoughts and beliefs around our emotions and all this entails. We all need healthy role modelling and this includes good, well balanced environment to interact emotionally with others and one’s self. We all need to learn how, when, why and who and even what about emotions and expressing. This is about developing emotionally – to a full functioning – participatory human being.
Being in REAL relationship with one’s self ~ ONE’S SELF. Where ~ one’s true self – is aware and conscientiously accepting one’s self without being “secretively inside – full of shame about self”. Where the person can functionally express them self with strength and power with balance and well-being for self and others around them. Keeping in mind that expression of feelings or emotions have a natural relief process and are NOT ABOUT squashing them down or denying you have them OR… being ashamed about how disturbing they are to you or to others around you.
WHEN DO EMOTIONS OR FEELINGS BEGIN TO YOU KILLING YOU.
Your inability to have and express balanced and harmonious emotions or feelings is when you start to begin to kill a part of your real true human being self. This is EMOTIONAL ILLNESS.
Emotional illness is when your emotions (the expression or repression) are disturbing to you or to others around you and that you cannot deal emotions within a natural manner. You are overwhelmed in a very strong way or you have a slow ebbing flow of down feelings and thoughts – conscious or unconscious. I say conscious or unconscious because every person can be taught or conditioned to “DENY” or “LIE” or be totally unknowing or barren of any useful knowledge of being aware of having –
“DISTORTED OR DISTURBED FEELINGS / EMOTIONS”.
THE ACT OF FEELING EMOTIONS IS A NATURAL HAPPENING FOR EVERY HUMAN BEING.
It is when these feelings and emotions get built-up – pent-up – explosive – isolating or over-achieving or reclusive and under-achieving… maybe when you are labeled negatively as – say – lazy, stupid, good-for-nothing, sick or aggressive, violent or any number of other negative labels given to people we view as “troubled”. The may be outwardly addicted or getting there.
When emotionally problems become chronic and last… this is mental illness and requires help. BUT, help must be there when this mental illness is the initial stage – emotional disturbance. Emotional disturbance is the beginning of the big lie about mental illness.
There is much more to this whole subject and the source and beginning of the final scene of the ACT of KILLING ONE’S TRUE SELF – IS – SUICIDE.
I write this to image your best friend – someone – your age – from your neighborhood – maybe your best friend or from your group of best friends – commits suicide… what happens inside you? Think about how well – emotionally – you are prepared then to deal with the self death of someone that close. Think too – if you are a young teenager – from a remote community. From a community of troubled people. People historically set-up with emotional disturbance and distortion… what then?
If you can see this – then perhaps you can help others. The solution is to revamp our emotional constitution – our emotional make-up – our emotional pact with our self. And then with others. How do you feel inside and how do you think as a connection to these feelings… what is your emotional package?
If you or anybody you know needs help – write me or call me. Confidentially.
Pilamaya – thank you
Mitakuye Oyasin – we are all related
He Ce Tu Welo – as it is so